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<?xml-stylesheet type="text/xsl" href="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/utility/feedstylesheets/rss.xsl" media="screen"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"><channel><title>Royal Navy Forum</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/</link><description /><dc:language>en-US</dc:language><generator>Telligent Community 12</generator><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Online Children's Summer Parties - Arts &amp; Crafts and Lego</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2299/online-children-s-summer-parties---arts-crafts-and-lego/9757</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 16:23:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:d5c46ccb-b76f-4c18-a7ea-c3017ede80a7</guid><dc:creator>Naiomi</dc:creator><description>Do you have the ‘Lion’ instructions?</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: Online Children's Summer Parties - Arts &amp; Crafts and Lego</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2299/online-children-s-summer-parties---arts-crafts-and-lego</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 13:57:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:0d41bf73-cf77-4ed7-bbdf-4dff4dd0801a</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Thank you to all who came along to our online Summer parties this year, I for one had a great time at each and every party and I hope all those who took part did too The arts and crafts we did involved some mosaic tile making, felting for the older children, making tea light holders with clay and also some trinket trays with clay. Unfortunately we haven&amp;#39;t had many pictures sent in yet but here are the ones that have: We also had some summer fun with Lego too, and first we made our ice-breaker build with the bricks we were given and we were asked to create a lion, there were lots awesome lions, some were given names, others weren&amp;#39;t! We all received the Lego book &amp;quot;Build Your Own Story! Space Rescue&amp;quot;. We had an enormous amount of fun building Bitz, who was our main character, his Spaceship and then his friend Rocky the Angry Asteroid! We also built DJ Mushroom, Bitz and Aster&amp;#39;s Raceship, the rock climbing mech and Aster the Grown Up. Here are the pictures that have been received so far showing off the creations the children made with their Lego&amp;#39;s from the book ... A huge thank you to everyone who took part. Please feel free to upload pictures by replying to this discussion, it goes a long way to helping us secure funding for future online parties. Keep your eyes peeled for our Online Halloween Parties which will hopefully be promoted on the Royal Navy Forum by the time the children go back to school. Thank you again!</description><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/Children_26002300_39_3B00_s%2bOnline%2bParties">Children&amp;#39;s Online Parties</category><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/National%2bOnline%2bCommunity">National Online Community</category></item><item><title>Blog Post: Support for LGBT Veterans Impacted by the Armed Forces Ban (27 July 1967–12 January 2000)</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/topics/news/b/announcements/posts/support-for-lgbt-veterans-impacted-by-the-armed-forces-ban-27-july-1967-12-january-2000</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 08:54:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:77fda351-3104-4bab-bdd6-d7927231f4ed</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>Restorative Measures for LGBT Veterans Affected by the Armed Forces Ban (1967–2000) The Ministry of Defence is delivering restorative measures to LGBT veterans impacted by the historic ban on LGBT personnel serving in the Armed Forces. Measures Available are: • Non-Financial Restorative Measures : Includes letters of apology, replacement discharge papers, restoration of rank/commission, the Etherton Ribbon, and more. • Financial Recognition Scheme - Dismissed or Discharged Payment of &amp;#163;50,000 for LGBT veterans who were dismissed or discharged solely due to their sexual orientation or gender identity. • Financial Recognition Scheme – impact Payment of up to &amp;#163;20,000 to eligible LGBT veterans to recognise the broader impacts of the Ban, assessed by an Independent Panel. Further information about the LGBT Financial Recognition Scheme, Non-Financial Restorative Measures, how to apply and support available can be found on the LGBT Veterans: support and next steps – GOV.UK page: LGBT veterans: support and next steps - GOV.UK Financial Recognition Scheme payments are tax-free and will not affect means-tested benefits. Eligible individuals must apply before both Schemes close at 23:59 on 12 December 2026</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: Lego Serious Play, Designing a Lego Game - Lets Help Each Other</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2298/lego-serious-play-designing-a-lego-game---lets-help-each-other</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 07:53:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:f80b28c9-8d29-411c-99fa-780235e84f36</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Hello Lego Serious Player&amp;#39;s, Seeing as we have been set a challenge to design a game using Lego which we will all present at next month&amp;#39;s session (10 minutes each) I have started a discussion to see if we can help each other. I have recently found the link below to see if it will spark my imagination, maybe it will help yours ... 10+ Totally Awesome LEGO Party Games - Frugal Fun For Boys and Girls I look forward to us all working together to come up with some different ideas, suggestions and how we see next month&amp;#39;s session going</description><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/Design%2ba%2bGame">Design a Game</category><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/Lego%2bSerious%2bPlay">Lego Serious Play</category><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/Homework">Homework</category><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/National%2bOnline%2bCommunity">National Online Community</category></item><item><title>Forum Post: Adults Lego Serious Play - Recap from August Session</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2297/adults-lego-serious-play---recap-from-august-session</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 07:44:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:5885f712-0c38-4f76-b872-671717fa86b2</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Thank you to all those who attended our August Lego Serious Play session, and I hope you enjoyed the builds as much as we did Our first build challenge was to build something we have done so far this summer ... this is the Prince of Wales someone has been overusing their ice cream maker, but it has been so warm outside?! visiting National Trust gardens made a light sabre as they have been crocheting a few have been visiting castles going down the zipwire with their grand children in the play park catching up on sleep when they can as been working long hours We then went on to build something you might find in a tree ... An apple An abstract bat ... or is it a spider ... A parachutist A jeep in a tree from the movie Jurassic Park An angry cuckoo stealing another birds nest! and we had a Tree House Again the imaginations of everyone when they build without any instructions are amazing. Thank you again for coming along and we look forward to seeing you on 7th September for our next session. If anyone would like to get involved in this group then please email navypeople-psrnfpscom@mod.gov.uk to express your interest.</description><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/Lego%2bSerious%2bPlay">Lego Serious Play</category><category domain="https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/tags/National%2bOnline%2bCommunity">National Online Community</category></item><item><title>Blog Post: Up and Coming Events with X-Forces</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-course-and-training/b/announcements/posts/up-and-coming-events-with-x-forces-1157719684</link><pubDate>Thu, 06 Aug 2026 08:28:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:717135d0-5008-48ed-b1ec-5809defb9f63</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>Self-Employment Discovery Workshop Online Event: 10 September 2026 Just starting out? Why not book onto our Self Employment Discovery workshops coming soon, this is a powerful, one-day virtual workshop created for veterans and reservists who are curious about self-employment but want clarity before committing. Business Discovery for Military Partners and Spouses Online Event: 22 September A confidence-building 1 day introduction to self-employment, helping Forces families understand the fundamentals of business, legal basics, and what to expect from the journey ahead. Understanding Your Customer Avatar with Jennie Edmondson Online Event: 15 October 2026 Jennie will explain what a Customer Avatar is and why it is such a useful tool for small business owners. A Customer Avatar is a detailed profile of your ideal customer. It helps you understand who they are, what they need, what problem they are trying to solve, what motivates them to buy, and what might be holding them back. ChatGPT for Small Business: A New Programme Aims to Help SMEs Save Time and Grow Many business owners can already see the potential of AI. The challenge is finding the time and space to explore how it can be applied effectively within an already busy business. Read more here: ChatGPT for Small Business</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9748</link><pubDate>Thu, 06 Aug 2026 07:53:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:906a2bdf-d595-4644-8807-d59a35c2ec38</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Hi Juliette, I will ask Sarah about the proof of purchase to exchange the book. As soon as I/we know what next month&amp;#39;s book is going to be I will let you know</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: Talltrees Play Out Day - Yeovilton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/b/announcements/posts/talltrees-play-out-day---yeovilton</link><pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2026 09:48:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:7d60fe5a-9a0b-4348-936d-2e4265e86976</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>Join RN FPS in the park for family fun and games including an inflatable on Wednesday 19th August 11.00am to 2.00pm . Bring your own picnic to enjoy whilst you are there. Booking Essential with a closing date of Monday 17 August at 5pm. More information and Booking Form can be found by going to the Members Events and Activities (If you are not already a member of &amp;quot;Members Events and Activities&amp;quot; you will need to request to join first)</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: Mission Motorsport - August 2026 Newsletter</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/topics/news/b/announcements/posts/mission-motorsport---august-2026-newsletter</link><pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2026 07:25:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:7c50969e-35d3-4aec-8a43-eab14e01b998</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>Mission Motorsport are delighted to share the Mission Motorsport August 26 Newsletter. This month, you can read about our new Mission Motorsport Supporter programme, our latest visits to the N&amp;#252;rburgring and Prodrive, Mission Motorsport Racemakers at the British Grand Prix, and much more. You&amp;#39;ll also find details of all our upcoming events, with easy sign-up links, volunteering opportunities, and plenty of ways you can support the charity. We&amp;#39;d love for you to take a few minutes to have a read and see everything that&amp;#39;s happening across the Mission Motorsport community. Enjoy reading this month&amp;#39;s August 26 Newsletter and they look forward to seeing many of you at an event soon.</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: Royal Navy 60 Second Update - Episode 230</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/topics/news/b/announcements/posts/royal-navy-60-second-update---episode-230</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2026 13:57:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:661d00b2-554b-4849-a1a8-86670ec1e42f</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>Royal Navy 60 Second Update - Episode 230 For all your latest Royal Navy headlines, y our latest Royal Navy news comes from HMS Stirling Castle who’s back in Portsmouth after recent minehunting exercises with NATO allies. This and previous updates can be viewed via the Royal Navy Website: 60 Second Update CLICK HERE FOR THE LATEST NEWS: https://youtu.be/4w4nPRvxqgk?is=_YjSEzfD0GaK4LNT</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: Before The Storm Hits</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/topics/news/b/announcements/posts/before-the-storm-hits</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2026 12:56:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:e62505b5-aa6f-41e3-9ca0-219d57a84569</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>The following article has been written by Lt Matt Newman RN to highlight a time when he needed support. Please be aware this article is very personal and may be upsetting for some. Before The Storm Hits: By Lt Matt Newman RN I am a 56-year-old Royal Navy officer. Thirty-seven years in the service. Helicopters, policy, command. I have been trained to stay calm under pressure, to think clearly when everything around me is falling apart, and above all — above absolutely everything else — to get on with it. I am writing this because the way I had learned to cope, or as it turned out, not cope, very nearly broke me. 4 August 2025 I found my wife, unconscious, on our bedroom floor. Lynn. Fifty-one years old. Cornish through and through, with a laugh you could hear from three rooms away and a heart that had room for absolutely everyone. Together for nearly twenty years, my wife of twelve years, my best friend, my safe harbour. The woman who followed me through every posting the Royal Navy threw at us without a single complaint, who made every house we lived in feel like home within a week, whose Cornish pasties were, without exaggeration, the stuff of legend. I found her, and I knew immediately something was catastrophically wrong. I called the paramedics. I held her. Ella, our eighteen-year-old daughter, was there. Our dog Reggie was there. The paramedics came and they were magnificent — they worked on her for a long time; with a skill and a compassion I will never forget for as long as I live — but they could not save her. Lynn was gone. At fifty-one years old. Without warning, without goodbye, without anything that made the remotest sense. And then — at one o&amp;#39;clock in the morning, in the hours that followed, while I was still sitting in the rubble of everything — one paramedic asked me a question I was completely unprepared for. “Which funeral director would I like to use?” I had no answer. I had never thought about it for a single second. Why would I? Lynn was fifty-one. We had plans for the next twenty years. We talked about them just that weekend. I know we all talk about the importance of having a Will. We are told, correctly, that it is the responsible thing to do — for our families, for the people we leave behind. But nobody tells you that a funeral plan, or even just a nominated person to manage the process, is equally important. In the middle of the worst night of your life, when your brain has effectively shut down and your body is operating on something close to autopilot, you will be asked to make decisions. Practical, administrative, logistical decisions. And the cruellest thing about grief is that it arrives at exactly the moment when you are least equipped to think. Have the conversation now. Write it down. Tell someone. Not because death is coming soon — but because love means not leaving the people you love to figure it out alone at one in the morning. There are a few things I wish I had done long before that night. I will come back to them, but they do matter. The next night, I found myself sitting alone by the fire pit in the garden, and I did what I have always done when I don&amp;#39;t know what else to do. I opened PistonHeads. I know how that sounds. But if you know PH, you&amp;#39;ll understand. It&amp;#39;s a car forum, technically, but it&amp;#39;s really a community of people who talk about everything — and I had been posting there for years. So, I sat down, and I started writing. Not for sympathy. Not for hugs or likes. I wrote because I needed to get it out of my head and onto something, and a keyboard felt less lonely than a blank journal page. What happened next genuinely surprised me. Over the next weeks and months, the responses came flooding in. Stories of loss. Words of wisdom. Practical advice. Dark humour when I needed it. People I had never met, had never seen a photograph of, sitting with me through the longest nights of my life. I owe those people a great deal. But I also owe them honesty. And the honest truth is this: for all the comfort a forum can provide, it is not a substitute for professional help. And I waited far too long to get it. The Mask We All Wear Here is something I need you to understand about military culture, and about the sort of man I am, and probably about the sort of person you are if you are reading this. In the military, and often beyond, we rarely ask for help. We manage. We adapt. We find ways to keep moving when everything in us wants to stop. We have been told, implicitly and sometimes explicitly, that needing help is a weakness — that the correct response to pain is to tighten up, drive on, and deal with it later. I believed that. I had believed it for thirty-seven years. After Lynn died, I told myself I was coping. I was walking the dog. I was planning the funeral. I was writing in a forum, which felt like processing. And I was drinking. Every night. Bourbon by the fire pit. Port with friends. Red wine with the family when they descended. Wine to sleep. Brandy to think. I told myself it was grief, and grief looked like this, and I was a functional person who simply needed to take the edge off the evenings. But I was drinking to manage what I was feeling – way more than I wanted to admit, and way more than is regarded as safe. I knew I had crossed a line, and I kept going anyway. My colleagues at work knew it. My closest friends knew it. I knew it. I was not shy about it, I was the functioning alcoholic who could still get through a day, still walk the dog, still write coherent posts on a forum, still make decisions — but who was using alcohol the way a pressure valve is used, and who would have been in serious trouble if it had continued much longer. I say this not for dramatic effect. I say it because if you are reading this in the early days of a personal tragedy, or in the grey sustained flatness that follows, and you are pouring one more drink to get through another evening — please hear me. I understand why. I did it too. But it is not helping. It is only postponing. And there was something else I was postponing thinking about. On the 9 August — just five days after Lynn died — I went upstairs at a family gathering because I needed to get away from the noise. I went to our bedroom. I held her pillow. I could still smell her perfume on it. I sat there and I thought about ending it. I want to be very clear, because the whole point of this article is honesty: I considered, in that room, the need to not want to be here anymore. I had what I can only describe as a practical problem that needed solving, and my broken, exhausted, grief-saturated mind was trying to find solutions. The thought was real, and it frightened me. I was too much of a mess to think coherently. I had, by small mercy, already put Lynn&amp;#39;s medication in the loft a few days earlier, which meant there was a required effort standing between me and that option. I am, by nature and by confession, a complete physical coward who inwardly cries at a blood test. But the thought was there, and it was real, and it was the most powerful it had ever been in my life. I need to say something here that I believe with everything I have, and which I want written plainly and without apology. People who attempt to take their own lives, or who succeed in doing so, are not cowards. They are not weak. They are not selfish. They are people who have arrived at a moment where the pain they are carrying has overwhelmed the information available to them, and who have made a decision — often a courageous decision, in its own terrible way — to try to solve an unbearable problem with the only tool they believe they have left. They are not wrong to want the pain to stop. They are wrong only in one thing: in believing that there are no other tools. That is where grief, and darkness, and isolation, and the stigma that stops us asking for help, does its most lethal work. It removes options from view. It makes the unthinkable seem logical. It narrows the world down to a single terrible door. The professionals — the therapists, the doctors, the welfare officers, the Samaritans at the end of a phone line — exist to open other doors. That is all. That is the entire job. And I should have walked through one of those doors years before Lynn died. Not because I was in crisis. But because the tools on the other side of them would have made me a better husband, a more honest father, a more complete human being. I came through that afternoon in August. But I should never have reached it. What Actually Helped On the 11 August, the Royal Navy Welfare team (now Royal Navy Family &amp;amp; People Support – RN FPS) came to see me. I had used them professionally many times over the years — referring others, making sure my people were looked after. I had never once used them for myself. Within an hour, everything changed. Kate, Social Worker saw through every bit of my carefully constructed composure within about ten minutes. She arranged immediate contact with my PMO. She set in motion grief counselling for me, for Ella, for my boys Tom and Jack, and contacts for Lynn&amp;#39;s father. She helped finding a venue for the wake. She identified financial support I didn&amp;#39;t know existed. She did more in one morning than I had managed to do for myself in a week. And my doctor — when we finally spoke — said something I desperately needed to hear that my feelings were normal. Not fixed, not solved, but normal . For someone who had been fighting a daily battle between rational thought and complete irrationality, that was like being thrown a rope. I want to say that again clearly, because it matters: being told by a professional that what you are experiencing is a normal human response to catastrophic loss is not a small thing. It is enormous. It is the difference between thinking you are losing your mind and understanding that your mind is doing exactly what minds do when the thing they love most is suddenly gone. I started one-to-one counselling in December. I was nervous. I wasn&amp;#39;t sure what I expected — I am an engineer. I understand helicopter gearboxes. I understand thermodynamics. I do not, by instinct or training, understand sitting in a room talking about my feelings. But Natalie — my grief and trauma therapist — is an extraordinarily clever woman. And she did something I did not expect she didn&amp;#39;t just talk about Lynn. She talked about me. About the patterns I had built up over fifty-six years. About the way I had been conditioned to present strength and suppress need. About the tools — and they are tools, practical ones, ones an engineer can respect — that exist to help a person carry grief without being crushed by it. There was a session, in the spring, that changed everything. I had isolated myself for four days when I was unwell, and I had spiralled badly. I went into my next session depleted and dark, and Natalie stopped me mid-sentence and asked, quite directly: &amp;quot;What did you do about it?&amp;quot; I had no answer. &amp;quot;Why didn&amp;#39;t you call someone?&amp;quot; I sat in silence. Because the answer — the honest answer — was that it had not occurred to me. After fifty-six years of self-sufficiency, after nearly four decades of military service, the idea of picking up a phone and saying I am struggling, I need to hear a voice had simply not registered as an available option. I came out of that session and called my sister. And it helped, the lights were now on, blazing. Immediately, simply and completely, it helped. That is not a complicated insight. That is not the product of years of therapeutic work. It is the most basic human act there is: reaching out. And I had needed a professional to point at it before I could see it. The Light Changes I want to tell you where I am now, because this story does not end in that bedroom in August. Ella graduated from the British Racing School in February 2026. I stood in the rain watching our daughter gallop down the mile in her graduation, and I could barely breathe for pride. She had been so lost after losing her mum, but she has carried herself with a bravery that humbled me. And there she was, beginning her career in the horse racing world, having found her calling, having somehow come through. Tom completed his Masters with a First. Jack moved to a better job with Toyota. Reggie sleeps on Lynn&amp;#39;s side of the bed and snores loudly enough that it makes me laugh, which I suspect is exactly what Lynn would have arranged if she&amp;#39;d had the option. I went on a holiday to New York with Ella and we sailed home on the QM2. I read. I have started listening to music again — I bought a record deck, and I think my neighbours now know more about Showaddywaddy than they ever wanted to. I have even, to the astonishment of nobody more than myself, met someone — a fellow petrolhead, someone who understands this journey. I enjoy the sun. I laugh. I cry too, often and without warning and without apology. Both of those things are true simultaneously, and that is fine. I have not adjusted, got over or come to terms to losing Lynn. I have acclimatised . There is a difference that matters to me. “Adjustment” implies you have made the loss fit. “Getting over” or “coming to terms” implies putting the issue in the cupboard. Acclimatisation is something else — it is learning to live in a new climate, to find what grows there, to discover that colour still exists and warmth still exists and that the future, however unrecognisable it looks, is still a place worth going. I can do that now, in large part, because I finally asked for help. What I Am Asking You To Do Here is the thing I most want you to take from this, and it is not about bereavement. I wish I had started counselling before 4 August 2025. Not because Lynn would still be here. Nothing could have changed that. Simply because the tools I have now — the ones Natalie has given me, the ones my doctor, the welfare team and the Samaritans (yes, I have their number in my phone, and I am not ashamed of it) helped me access — those tools would have made me a better husband, a more present father, a more honest version of myself. I had burnout in the spring before Lynn died. I had periods of real darkness that I had simply overridden by force of will. I had, for years, been wearing a jacket three sizes too small and calling it fine. We have a culture — in the military, in the civil service, on car forums, in the places where people like us congregate — where many of us have absorbed the idea, sometimes implicitly, that asking for help is a sign of extreme weakness. It is not. It is the opposite. It takes more courage to sit in a room with a therapist and be honest than it does to keep everything below the surface and pretend. So, this is what I am asking you to do. Sort out your Will. And while you&amp;#39;re at it, have the conversation about funerals. It does not need to be detailed. It does not need to be morbid. It needs to be enough that the person you love most in the world is not standing in their kitchen at one in the morning trying to think of a funeral director&amp;#39;s name. That conversation is an act of love. Do it. Do it tonight. Watch your drinking. When you are pouring a drink to get through an evening rather than to enjoy it, that is a signal. Don&amp;#39;t override it. Talk to someone. Go and speak to a professional. Not when the storm hits. Now. Before it does. Your GP. Your unit welfare officer. A counsellor. The Samaritans at three in the morning if that&amp;#39;s where you are. Call me if it helps. It does not have to be a crisis. In fact, the whole point is that it shouldn&amp;#39;t be. The tools these people offer are for life — for all of it, the ordinary stretches and the catastrophic ones alike. And if you are somewhere dark right now — if you are in that room, holding that pillow, feeling that narrowing — please know this: the decision you are contemplating is being made on incomplete information. The pain is real. The exhaustion is real. But the doors you cannot see from where you are standing are also real. Please call someone and let them open one. The professionals are extraordinary. I mean this with no qualification at all. The paramedics who tried to save Lynn. The doctors who sat with me through the worst of it. The Social Worker who came to my house and quietly dismantled every reason I had given myself for not asking for help. My therapist who, in one question, gave me back the telephone. My DO, who consistently shows our own system works. These people are there, and they are waiting, and you do not have to deserve them or earn them or reach a certain level of broken before you are allowed to call. A physicist would tell you that energy cannot be created or destroyed. That every particle that ever bounced off the face of someone you love is still out there, racing through the universe, changed forever by the encounter. Lynn&amp;#39;s energy is still out there. I feel it every day. Mine is still here too. And I intend to make the most of every bit of it — for her, and because of her, and with the help of every brilliant professional, with every member of my family and every friend who refused to let me disappear quietly into myself. Don’t wait for the storm. Go and talk to someone. Now . Lt Matt Newman RN Navy Executive SO3 RN Leadership &amp;amp; Culture Matt Newman is a Royal Navy officer of 37 years. He would like to thank the paramedics who attended on 4 August 2025, the RN FPS, Association of Royal Navy Officers, Natalie his therapist, his CO, LM and DO, his colleagues, and of course his family — without all of whom this article would not exist. If you are struggling, contact the Samaritans on 116 123 (free, 24/7, no judgement). Military personnel can contact Royal Navy Family &amp;amp; People Support on 0800 145 6088 or visit strongmen.org.uk . SSAFA and Combat Stress also offer specialist support for serving personnel and veterans. If you are concerned about your drinking, your GP/PMO is the right first call — and everything you say is confidential. Further signposting to support can be found on the Royal Navy Forum: HELP</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9742</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2026 11:50:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:27c4cd1b-8231-461e-8911-1276914de581</guid><dc:creator>Juliette H</dc:creator><description>Hi Clare/Sarah, yes that’s fine, the easiest Waterstones to get to is Norwich &amp;amp; at some point I’ll be up there to meet my other daughter at uni once she’s gone back. Will I need a proof of purchase/exchange? You’ll need to let me know which book to swap too please as I don’t know which ones are coming next :-) Thanks! Juliette.</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9741</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2026 07:33:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:98af37c2-1f35-4551-900a-dd4f9e6d37bc</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>These have all been sent out, please check junk/spam folders to make sure it hasn&amp;#39;t gone in there</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9740</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 19:04:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:142eea53-2ccf-4bbc-93ad-457ea53429ea</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Hi Juliette, just spoken to Sarah and she has said if you keep hold of it you can exchange it at Waterstones for one of the next books instead of sending it back, if you are happy to do that instead of sending it back :-)</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9739</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 16:19:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:a698452e-b42c-48e0-b5f0-01a09cbb50ed</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>If you mark it for Sarah&amp;#39;s please as the return address will be in Portsmouth, that will be amazing, thank you Juliette</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9737</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 12:55:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:f6dfc777-fd9c-445a-93d1-277a437e3a56</guid><dc:creator>Juliette H</dc:creator><description>Will do I’ll probably get to the post office tmrw. I’ll mark it for your attention at the return to sender address on the envelope…please let me know if that’s any different. Juliette.</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9736</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 10:53:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:b2e87d03-84f5-4405-a5b8-8d2ab6ebbbdb</guid><dc:creator>MichelleK</dc:creator><description>I haven&amp;#39;t received the link for my Audible book yet either and it&amp;#39;s already 3rd August. Is there any issue with sending out this month&amp;#39;s books? Many thanks for all your hard work with these groups</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: The Cave - Churchill Square, Helensburgh</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/topics/news/b/announcements/posts/the-cave---churchill-square-helensburgh</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 10:02:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:15449206-9eed-411f-a162-8169669b116a</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>The Cave, Churchill Square, Helensburgh, opened its doors on Tues 9 Jun to showcase the new facility for local young people in S1 - S6. This was followed up with a Summer Workshop on the 28 Jul involving fun team building games and challenges. This also involved unveiling and testing out the new air/pool table donated by Naval Children’s Charity. A new youth group in Churchill Square will provide weekly activities from Tues 18 Aug 2026 with further activities being planned. The Cave was a response to a reported lack of provisions in the Churchill area for young people 12 yrs and over. With support from Sophia McArdle, RN FPS Community Development Worker, who has been involved in the project since it started, this is seen as a valuable addition to services within the local area. Sophia said, “It has been a lengthy process to finalise and get The Cave open, and we are delighted RN FPS are now able to offer this facility to young people in the area. The two recent events have been well attended, and we are excited to watch The Cave grow into an integral part of the local community.” To stay up to date of what is happening locally, join the RN Forum .</description></item><item><title>Blog Post: Behind The Uniform - Online Community Support Group</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/b/announcements/posts/behind-the-uniform---online-community-support-group-1574225418</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 08:13:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:f448b911-fe04-42a9-87af-b508df03098f</guid><dc:creator>RN Forum Moderator</dc:creator><description>&amp;quot;Behind the Uniform, Beside Each Other&amp;quot; A national online community to support, engage, and bring together people who are living independently while their serving person is away. Piloting every Thursday starting 9th July through to the 20th August 2026 via MS Teams. Please Note: Due to unforeseen circumstances the session scheduled for Thursday 6th August has been cancelled . However, Behind the Uniform will take place on Thursday 13th and Thursday 20th August as scheduled. Behind the Uniform is a new national online group for military spouses and partners who are childfree, empty nesters, or simply living on their own while their serving person is deployed, detached, or away from home. Our aim is to bring together individuals in similar circumstances from across the UK, providing a welcoming and supportive community where members can connect, share experiences, and support one another during periods of separation and isolation. Behind the Uniform is a self-led group, offering a relaxed space to meet, chat, and build meaningful connections with others who understand the unique realities of military life. Alongside peer support, there will be opportunities for social activities, guest sessions, and informal meet-ups—both online and in person where possible. Whether you&amp;#39;re new to military life or have experienced many periods apart, you&amp;#39;ll find a friendly community ready to welcome you. MS Teams link and more information can be found by going to the relevant date on our Member Events and Activities Calendar . (If you are not already a member of &amp;quot;Members Events and Activities&amp;quot; you will need to request to join first) This is an adult (18+) only group and is not for children to attend to give adults space away from family life.</description></item><item><title>Forum Post: RE: Book Club Discussion for Madhouse At The End Of The Earth by Julian Sancton</title><link>https://forum.royalnavy.mod.uk/events/community-events/f/forum/2294/book-club-discussion-for-madhouse-at-the-end-of-the-earth-by-julian-sancton/9735</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2026 08:05:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b28a645c-0ea2-4600-866f-e043a0fddeae:f17eea86-c355-43d7-aaf1-cdf47c069083</guid><dc:creator>Community CSW2</dc:creator><description>Hi Mary H, Kindles will be sent out in the next couple of days, our Group Lead has been extremely busy.</description></item></channel></rss>